Anger is a natural adaptive response to threats that inspires powerful, often aggressive feelings and behaviors, which allows us to defend ourselves when attacked. However, there are limits.
Anger management tips
Ask yourself if this will matter in ten years. You may see things from a calmer perspective.
Acknowledge that it is frustrating, and it’s understandable that you would be upset about it. At
the same time it is not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix anything. .
Think about whether you have you ever done the same thing to someone else, even if by accident.
Did you get angry at yourself? Ask yourself if the person did it on purpose. In many cases,
you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.
Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything and will not make you feel better
(and may actually make you feel worse).
Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can
minimize the damage you will do while angry. Or try counting to ten with a deep slow breathe in
between each number. Deep breathing helps people relax.
Imagine a relaxing experience. Close your eyes, and travel there in your mind.
Non-strenuous physical activities, like walking, can relax your muscles and help you feel calmer.
Give yourself time and space alone. Physically move away from situations that make you angry.
Conflict is a sign for need for change and an opportunity for growth, new understanding and improved communication. One can resolve conflict by the following tips: Respond, do not react. Listen without interrupting. Acknowledge other persons’ feelings. Give respect to get respect. Aim for mutual satisfaction. Be creative. Be specific. Be open to change. Look forward not backward. Stay focused on the topic at hand. Identify points of agreement s and disagreements. Communicate clearly and respectfully. Work together. Express feelings. Use ‘I’. take ownership without placing blame.
Steps to Resolve Conflict or Deal with Anger; Express your opinion calmly. Allow others to express their opinions. Listen while others speak and try to understand their views. Work with others to find a solution to the problem. Use “I” statements. Ask a respected adult to help if you are unable to reach agreement. Leave the situation if you are unable to control our anger.